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What to expect – the reiki session

November 26, 2018 by Angela Leave a Comment

Everyone experiences reiki in their own way. Some have a profound experience, others have an experience that is so gentle, it feels like nothing is happening, but there is always something happening.

Rather than trying to tell you all the things that might happen, allow me to explain, generally, how a session runs. The most important thing for you to do is to simply be and allow yourself to be open to whatever might happen.

Before your visit, you will receive a couple of forms and a link to a chakra test to help focus what you would like to work on before arriving for your reiki session. When you arrive we will sit together and talk through these forms before your session. Sometimes this brings up other things that would be better suited to work on during our session. We can be very flexible in what to work on together.

Next we will get you comfortable in the reiki space. Unlike other modalities, such as massage, you will remain fully clothed during the session.

The room will be calm and relatively dark. We have a shared office space so the building can be noisy at times, or there may be smells that waft under the door. To minimize these distractions, I use a sound machine and  a chakra meditation, or even a fan. If you become chilled, or tend to run cold, we can use a blanket and/or turn on the bed warmer (I’ve been told it’s heavenly).  Most of the session is in relative silence. If something brings you out of your relaxed state, simply aknowledge it, and let it go. Let yourself go back to that place of peace and calm.  You may hear me moving around you, placing and replacing stones. For the most part, I am hands off. I may place my hands on your head, shoulders, ankles or feet.  Some people feel sensations even though I’m not physically touching them, this is not unusual. If at any time you feel discomfort or have a question, it’s ok to say something.

Sessions begin with an invocation. Reiki is not associated with any religion, however, we recognize that there are entities larger than ourselves that may assist during the session. The invocation welcomes and invites them into the session. It also sets the tone and formalizes the start of the session.

Next I begin scanning your body. This is done by holding my hands above your body, feeling for where the energies are, how they are moving.  Then crystals are placed along your chakras first, then more as needed if there is a particular concern or feeling in any other part of the body. Sometimes they slip off or fall off the table during the session. If this happens, I will simply put them back, no worries.

Almost everyone relaxes enough to fall asleep for at least some of the time. Not only is this ok, it’s encouraged. The more relaxed you are, the more you will be receptive to allowing your energies shift and balance. Again, if something bring you out of this state, aknowledge it, and go back to your place of solitude.

I will gently bring you back out of your deep relaxation or sleep as the session ends. You only need to follow my prompts. While you come back into yourself, we will talk a bit about what you felt during the session while leaving the grounding stones in place. After a few minutes I will invite you to sit up, and drink some water.

Occasionally a client will have a profound moment during the session and may need to pause or to end the session earlier than expected. That’s ok. In this instance we stay in the room, maybe turn up the lights a bit, keep the grounding stones in place and talk through the moment.

During this exit discussion we’ll check in with how you feel. Most everyone feels some sort of shift, more relaxed, calm, less tired, less anxious, more grounded, some even report less pain or discomfort than they felt before.

You will receive a post session suggestion sheet or sheets by email to continue to work through the things that we discussed and worked on during your session.

I hope this gives you a better idea of what to expect during your first reiki session.  Hope to see you soon!

~Angela

Filed Under: Crystals, Reiki, Wellness Tagged With: chakras, energy, grounding, healing, intention

Not just a garden

July 17, 2018 by Angela

Peaceful GardenWhen we moved to our current home we knew we wanted to create the tiny canvas canopy oasis garden of our last home on a much bigger scale.  It’s taken on several, evolving forms and keeps expanding, leaving less grass and more green.  There is the biergarten on the deck that is a larger, more permanent  version of the tiny canvas canopy, still surrounded by many plants, small trees and lights.  There is a gazebo and pond that we added shortly after moving in. The gazebo is covered in wisteria vines that came from my in-laws’ own garden that bloom in a riot of purple every spring. Between the trees in the front yard is a small garden that has been growing every year. There are pieces of quartz and quartzite interspersed in the edging that have been found digging in the yard and on our walks. It is also home to my grandmother’s hibiscus plant that my mother sent for my birthday one year. This garden in particular, is a very special place.

This week our garden had a new visitor, a woman we’ve never seen before was sitting by our front garden with her head down & arms wrapped around her knees. We’re pretty sure she’s a home healthcare aid working with  our neighbor down the block who must have been waiting for a ride home.  Thankfully when my husband took our doggo out, the giant black furry wonder didn’t see her and scare her (Friend!!! Let’s play!!). In fact my husband continued what he was doing so as to not disturb her. He was worried something might be wrong. Unfortunately she quickly left as soon as she realized someone was home. We weren’t even able to offer her a glass of water.

She could have sat under any of our neighbors’ trees that are larger, with a wider shade space underneath, but she chose our garden. She could have walked further down the street, closer to the main roads leading to our neighborhood. But she chose our garden to wait. We continue to be touched that she chose our special space.

Our gardens are often eclectic, not always successful, not always the most pristine, but are always full of love and intention.  Intention can be felt, you just have to pause long enough to feel the energy shift.

Do you have a still place where you find peace and ground your energy after a busy day? I would love to hear about it.

With Love and Light
Angela

 

 

 

Filed Under: Crystals, Grounding, Wellness Tagged With: earth, energy, garden, intention, stillness

For Caleb Isaac

April 26, 2016 by Angela

For a special boy born still.
In this work I am in a fortunate position to be touched by many families. There is one family in particular who not only touched me, my practice, but my family as well. In sadness grew the gift of love and friendship. All because of a sweet little boy who never took a breath.

Many are hesitant to speak about death because it makes them feel uncomfortable.  When a family is grieving, the best gift anyone can give is to allow for a safe space to let that grief flow. To listen, deeply. Not trying to fix what is perceived to be broken, but simply to listen, making sure that emotional as well as physical needs are being met.

Today we remember Caleb Isaac with love. And his beautiful, loving family who continue to live fiercely, fully, openly…teaching us all what it means to be present every day.

Happy Birthday Caleb!

With Love and Gratitude,
Angela

Filed Under: birth, doula Tagged With: bereavement, family, loss, support

“What can I gift my doula?”

December 4, 2014 by Angela Leave a Comment

I saw this question from a soon to be mom on Facebook this week. This was my answer:

“#1-Send back evaluation forms if you are given one, write a testimonial for her, offer to be on her referral list for future families, refer her to pregnant people you love, send pics, invite to first birthday. Yes, those are all listed under #1.

Anything else is gravy.”

Of course, it’s absolutely lovely to receive a small, deeply meaningful gift from a family.

Gifts from generous families I've had the honor to support as a doula.

But what better gift than to help a doula grow her business? Every suggestion costs the birthing family only a bit of their time, yet is invaluable to the doula. Ok, except an additional place at the first birthday party. We thrive on our families networking for us with referrals and testimonials, helping us with our certification evaluations, and spreading doula love in general. The best gift of all is when a family reaches out to say, “We’re pregnant again! Are you available?”

So if you have decided to invest in the support of a doula for your birth, and I hope you do, be sure to help her grow. This gift is priceless.

Filed Under: doula Tagged With: birth, doula, labor, pregnancy

Bengkung Belly Binding – what’s that like?

October 28, 2014 by Angela 1 Comment

The word is getting out about the benefits of belly binding after birth. Surprisingly, or perhaps not so, one of the questions I hear most is “What does it feel like?”

The most common immediate comment I hear just after binding a mother as she runs her hands over her body where the bind has just been wrapped is, “This feels GOOD!”.

Finished Bengkung Belly Bind

This feels GOOD.

Good has come to mean:

  • Comfortable
  • Supported
  • Strong
  • Whole

We spend 10 months growing a tiny being. At birth there is an empty space where the baby grew. The muscles, organs and skin need time to find their place again. Many women are unprepared for this reality, still looking & feeling pregnant for several weeks after birth. It takes time for the body to adjust from supporting the heavy pregnant uterus. Binding supports the muscles & organs as they shift back to their pre-pregnancy place.

Also during this early postpartum period comes what has been coined the “breastfeeding slouch”.  We all have it. We gaze at our new child as they feed, or we offer our breast to our child instead of bringing our child to our breast. Most women don’t even realize it’s happening. Again, the body is shifting from supporting a life from the inside to holding a baby on the outside.  It’s a shift the muscles are not fully ready for postpartum. A binding that is wrapped from pubic bone to just below the breasts fully supports the back as we get used to using all these muscles in ways that haven’t been used before birth.

Yes the early days postpartum are full of endless days & longest nights. When you feel physically more like yourself you can mentally & emotionally feel more like yourself.  You can take a step to take charge of your postpartum body. Give yourself the support you deserve as you transition & heal. Feel Good.

Local to the Northern Virginia/DMV area? Click here to set up a binding appointment .   If you are not local you can purchase binds here.

Filed Under: Postpartum Tagged With: binding, healing, support

Lactation Cookies

November 30, 2013 by Angela Leave a Comment

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My favorite lactation cookie recipe came from a blog that is no longer online. Since I was always making my own tweaks I’m posting my own recipe. When it comes down to it, it’s a rev’ed up oatmeal chocolate chip cookie. The recipe is based on ingredients that have some known lactogenic properties. Lactogenic means that it may help increase milk. I make no claims that these cookies will boost your breastmilk supply. If you are having breastfeeding problems please seek the help of a local breastfeeding professional. This is also not a diet food. They are cookies, ’nuff said. If you’d like to share this recipe please link back to this post.

A Momma’s Treat

Use organic ingredients when possible.

4 tablespoons Water
2 tablespoons Ground Flaxseed Meal – do not substitute
1 cup Unsalted Butter or 1/2 cup Unsalted Butter & 1/2 cup Coconut Oil**
1 cup Sugar
1 cup Brown Sugar
2 large Eggs
1 1/2 teaspoons Vanilla
2 cups Unbleached Flour
1 teaspoon Baking Soda (aluminum free if possible)
1 teaspoon Sea Salt, Pink Himalayan Salt is best
2 tablespoons Brewer’s Yeast – do not substitute ***
2 tablespoons Nutritional Yeast (optional) ***
2 tablespoons Hemp Seeds (optional)
3 cups Oatmeal (Steel Cut not recommended, but any other variety works well, the less processed the better)
1 package Dark Chocolate Chips

Additional add-ins:
1/2 cup dried fruit (I love cherries or cranberries) or
1/2 cup chopped nuts or
1/2 cup toffee chips

Preheat oven to 350 degrees
In a small bowl, mix flax seed meal & water, set aside. Flax will absorb the water & look a bit fluffy. About 3-5 minutes.
In a large bowl sift all dry ingredients together except oatmeal & chocolate chips. Set aside.
Cream butter (or butter and coconut oil) , sugar and brown sugar with a mixer until light & fluffy.
Add eggs one at a time & beat well after each addition. Scraping down sides of bowl as necessary.
Add flax seed/water mix. Beat well.
Add vanilla. Scrape sides of bowl.
Slowly add dry ingredients to butter mixture a little at a time.
Add in oatmeal, then chocolate chips & any other additions.

Drop teaspoon sized amounts onto a parchment lined or silicone lined baking sheet. Bake for 12-15 minutes. You can make them bigger but be sure to increase baking time.

Yields about 4 dozen cookies

If making bars increase baking time to 25-30 minutes. Bars are finished when a toothpick inserted into the center comes out clean.

**if using coconut oil spread the batter into an 11×13 pan for bars. The finished product will be too soft to stay in a cookie form for very long especially if freezing the finished product or transporting.

***Nutritional Yeast, Brewer’s Yeast & Baking Yeast are 3 different things. They are not interchangeable.

Filed Under: breastfeeding Tagged With: baking, breastfeeding, cookies, lactation

Breastmilk: The Movie

October 28, 2013 by Angela Leave a Comment

Last night was the much anticipated Washington DC premiere of Breastmilk: The Movie from first time director/producer Dana Ben-Ari and executive producers Ricki Lake & Abby Epstein hosted by Claudia Booker – Birthing Hands of DC.

Claudia introduced the film as a cautionary tale inviting us to think as we watch, not just about breastmilk, but about the support around breastfeeding mothers. She said that we need to bring in our partners, our men as vanguards to breastfeeding because it takes a family to raise a baby no matter what that family looks like. Yes, we need to surround ourselves with the women in our life, but our partners need to be educated about breastfeeding and support of breastfeeding. Who is  usually with us at 3 a.m. when we are trying to latch our babies? Not very many of us are lucky enough to have our mothers, sisters, aunts near us and if we do how many of the women in our lives who birthed before us actually breastfed a baby? There are generations of women who don’t what normal breastfeeding looks like. As so many of us know, there are well meaning people in our lives who unintentionally throw roadblocks into our breastfeeding relationships.

The emphasis on breastmilk as opposed to breastfeeding is clear in the opening scenes of the movie. The first image is that of a breast being expressed by a pump. This is a clear reflection of the breastfeeding culture in the U.S. today. Women talk about breastfeeding and breastmilk feeding as though they are one in the same. So much emphasis is put on pumping, not expression, but pumping. “Have you bough your pump yet? What kind did you get? When are you going to start pumping? How much should I be pumping? How often do I pump?” As much as women know about pumps we don’t know enough about normal breastfeeding. Isn’t this what should come first? Do you know that manual expression (not with a manual pump but with your hands) is often more efficient than a pump? This is true especially in the early days and weeks of breastfeeding! But how many classes teach manual expression? I know I’ve been guilty of teaching about hand expression, but not necessarily teaching the technique. What about breastfeeding? What does normal breastfeeding look like? Why does the baby have a witching hour in the evening? Do you know that watching the baby not the clock will tell you how often your breastfed baby needs to feed? It’s ok for baby to want to put their hands in their mouth when it’s time to feed. It’s ok if your new baby wants to feed every 90 minutes. Breastfeeding is not supposed to hurt. Pain is not normal and is an indication that something with the baby’s latch needs to change. Breastfeeding a baby after eruption of teeth is normal. Breastfeeding a baby past a year is normal. Tandem feeding is normal. Breastfeeding in public is normal Who is talking these aspects of breastfeeding? In my opinion, not enough people.

The movie show many of the interruptions women and babies have while they are trying to learn to breastfeed, especially in the hospital.  Mairi Breen Rothmann who spoke after the movie quoted a study I’ve heard before where women who birth in hospital are interrupted an average of every 17 minutes! If a newborn feeding session (positioning, latching, re-latching, re-positioning, feeding) takes about 40 minutes, she’s interrupted 3 times in that one session.  This only stresses that the Golden Hour after birth needs to be protected and revered so that the initial feed happens without interruption and subsequent feeds are easier for everyone.  Babies should not be taken from their mommas to be bathed early in this relationship, certainly not taken away for hours on end creating anxiety and doubt for the mother. They need that smell of amniotic fluid on their bodies to help them organize and find the breast, to properly colonize with momma. There is one hospital in this area I know categorizes babies as hazardous materials if they have not been bathed and the staff are required to wear gloves to handle the baby.  A grand policy in my eyes, only the parents should have hands on the baby.

The shape and shade of the families is phenomenal.  It’s not a movie about the typical middle-class white, husband and wife breastfeeding couple. There are families of color, adoptive families, same sex families, single parents, working parents, stay at home dads, you name it. Subjects discussed through the movie include extended breastfeeding, milksharing, formula feeding, tongue tie, induced lactation, going back to school or back to work, pumping, relationships, sex and intimacy, public breastfeeding and many worries about milk supply. So much is packed into  a short 90 minutes. And I haven’t even touched on the experts who share all kinds of information surrounding breastfeeding.

Many of the interviews take place in the bedroom of the families, on their beds. It’s very warm and intimate. The opening scene of the trailer is just that, an interview from the bed. This particular couple crack me up! Even with this humor there are elements of guilt, shame, embarrassment, failure as well as immense pride and joy. The emotions run the gamut.

The biggest surprise for me was the outcomes as they follow the families for a year. I think you will be surprised too.

I hope this film will serve as another jump-start to the conversation about breastfeeding in the United States. We need a change in the culture of breastfeeding for the health of our children, our society, our health care system, our future.

Some of my favorite clips are in the trailer. Watch it here.

Filed Under: Attachment Parenting, breastfeeding, Review Tagged With: birth, breastfeeding, Breastmilk The Movie, parenting

The Circus aka A Royal Birth

July 15, 2013 by Angela Leave a Comment

So the Duchess of Cambridge’s estimated due date has passed.

Whoopie.

I don’t mean that in the sense that I am not watching for the Royal Birth Proclamation, because the truth is I am. However, the intense scrutiny she is under while she is (hopefully) peacefully gestating cannot be conducive at all to a relaxing start to labor.

They’ve estimated that this birth will generate 400 Million Pounds into the UK economy! From ONE baby! That’s pressure enough. The paparazzi have been camped out for weeks. People have been speculating over the baby’s sex, it’s name, when it will be born, & how the Duchess will birth her child. Most new families only have their own friends & family breathing down their necks waiting for the call that labor may be starting. Any inkling, any sign.

I have a friend who was a new doula a few years ago. She was so nervous about one of her first clients she wanted to check in with her every day & didn’t know what to do if she didn’t hear from the momma on a regular basis as the due date approached. You can chalk that up to a new doula & many of us go through this early in our careers to some degree. It’s not how we should wait for our clients to birth. We wait, patiently, not hovering. Imagine the entire country virtually the Entire WORLD with their eyes on you. A virtual bounty on the head of your child for the first glimpse of his or her face. Surreal to me, but reality for the Royal Family.

I know they are forced to live their life in the spotlight. It’s not a choice. But do I ever wish everyone would just leave them alone to birth their baby.

I hope that she is somewhere serene & quiet. Walking grounds in peace, caressing and talking to her wee bub in her belly, dreaming the dreams that all parents do while they wait for their child to arrive.

I would love to see her birth their child quietly at home & announce it a few days, even weeks later. Oh what a bubble burst. I doubt that would ever happen, but a doula can dream.

Good Luck Royal Family. Wishing you a most peaceful birth.

Filed Under: Uncategorized Tagged With: birth, doula, Royal Family

Parenting and Puppies

May 15, 2013 by Angela Leave a Comment

Perhaps you’ve been told to get a pet, a dog in particular, if you’ve mentioned to anyone in the universe that you’re considering the expansion of your family. There’s a number of reasons people say pets prepare you for parenting. I can tell you that there are some similarities such as the getting up at night, not being able to be out for long periods of times, feeding schedules etc.

That being said, pets are not as snugly in the bed, you cannot soothe a puppy in a sling or at your breast, playing tends to involve lots of running & tugging & TEETH, and pets are much more mobile much sooner than a baby!

I’ve had puppies in my life, but all came B.C. – Before Children. My mom bred bassett hounds when I was growing up. I look back now & wonder how she did it. We were 3 active kiddles in the house & my parents both worked full-time outside the home. My husband & I had dogs already when our children were born. The last few years have been petless. Now that we have bought a home & intend (in our minds anyway) to stay here for the duration, my family has gotten a puppy. Now, if I had things my way we would have waited a bit longer, at least until the summer when the older 2 are out of school. But here we are, 2 1/2 weeks into puppydom, he’s adorable & almost 11 weeks old, but so much more work than the 3 year old who is the normal variable factor in my day. It is glaringly apparent just how much work a puppy is, but the entire world needs to tell me this as well. Sound familiar?

Just like labor, birth & parenting, mention you have a new puppy & WHAM! Every bad story & negative comment about raising a puppy comes out just like every awful birth & parenting story come out.

So one again I challenge you to be the supportive person. Whether it’s a furbaby or a human baby have a fun, positive story to tell. Offer to help. Give constructive advice. There’s enough drama out there to last a lifetime.

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Filed Under: Parenting Tagged With: parenting

What is Perfect?

March 12, 2013 by Angela Leave a Comment

A beautiful photo of a breastfeeding mother with the caption The Perfect Latch [sic] caught my eye this week. Ok I won’t lie; most photos of this nature catch my eye but this one made me stop & think. The latch did look nice from a lay person’s perspective, but I could see things mom could tweak to make it better. If the mother was comfortable with the latch & the baby was having good intake, then there’s no reason to change it.

As a bystander, how do we gauge if something is perfect & should we even express that sentiment? What do we really know about that breastfeeding dyad? Has that mother struggled with breastfeeding issues in the past? Perhaps her latch was causing a little pain when the photo was taken but she didn’t want to say so because she was told how perfect it was so why should she say anything?  This happens so often in the hospital after birth. A well meaning nurse comes in & sees those beautiful outturned “fish” lips on a baby who is having a feed & tells the mother how perfect a latch it is, but the mother says it hurts. The nurse tells her to give time, however there is an underlying issue you can’t see without further investigation, more questions, more time talking with the mother.  So this mother goes home having nipple pain, perhaps baby isn’t gaining quite enough. By the time she goes to the next pediatric appointment she has painful cracked nipples, a baby who looks like it isn’t gaining weight well, is told to supplement with a breastmilk substitute & use nipple shields until her nipples heal. Is this a fix? No, not at all. All because someone said that latch was “perfect”. And the cycle begins.

The same thing can be applied to birth. A doula says how perfect a birth this mother had, but the mother is questioning things that happened during or after her birth & is battling with postpartum anxiety during her babymoon. (Yes, there’s postpartum anxiety.) Only the mother can label her birth.  No one else should color her birth story for her.  Instead she should be asked about her experience & we should just listen. No interjection about how awful or wonderful someone else’s birth was, including our own. Just listen.

Parenting falls in the pitfall too. “I don’t know how you do what you do, you’re SuperMom!” is said to a mother who is running her children to all their schooling & activities, perhaps works or volunteers as well  (or both!) & is also trying to keep house & the family fed & happy. But at night she collapses because she is utterly exhausted & isn’t sure how much longer she can keep going this way because she doesn’t have enough support knowing she’s doing too much. She already knows she doesn’t know how to say No. She doesn’t feel like she can change the status quo without causing more issues that will have to deal with in the aftermath.  Then there is the mother feels like she needs to do as many things as SuperMom does, but she really can’t do more either. It’s classic keeping up with the Jones’.

We all get caught in the cycle when what we need to do is help one another break free.  Leave the labels to the packaged goods & let’s go find our tribes.  You are welcome in mine.

Yours in Birth
Angela

Filed Under: breastfeeding, doula, Parenting, Pregnancy Tagged With: birth, breastfeeding, doula, parenting

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