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Half a Million Babies

November 3, 2011 by Angela 2 Comments

The March of Dimes released this year’s Prematurity Report Card with a state by state breakdown this week. More than half a million babies in in the United States are born too soon. The United Sates as a whole rates as a C and only one, ONE state received an A rating.

How is this even possible in this day & age?

Why is this happening?

Consider the following:

  • Too many mothers are uninsured or underinsured and as a result don’t receive adequate prenatal care.
  • Fully one third of births in the United States are surgical births. The rate of cesarean births continues to rise every year.
  • The rate of early inductions is also rising.
  • Overuse of testing, especially late in pregnancy, resulting in more medically managed, earlier births.
  • There is not enough access to VBACs (Vaginal Birth After Cesarean).
  • There are not enough midwives to manage healthy women during their pregnancy & birth.
  • Anecdotal rather than evidence based information is being disseminated. One look at My OB Said What? gives you only a taste of what’s being said out there.
  • Many due dates are off and babies are being born at 36-37 weeks when the care provider thought the baby was 38-40 weeks.
  • The are more families having problems conceiving and thus are having to use a fertility specialist. These pregnancies often result in multiple births and many birth early & need time in the NICU.

The two most common reasons I hear for birthing a baby early are gestational age and size of the baby.

Despite the fact that a “term” pregnancy is considered 37-42 weeks, even waiting until 38 or especially 39 weeks to induce reduces the incidence of prematurity and allows the baby’s systems to fully mature. A week or two makes a huge difference even that late in pregnancy. Just because a woman reaches 40 weeks doesn’t mean that her time is up either & she must be induced or have a cesarean unless there is some legitimate medical reason.

A “big baby” is not a reason to birth a baby early. Ultrasound images can be up to 2 pounds off on either side of the reading. I hear so many women say their doctor said they couldn’t birth this baby because it is too big only to find the baby was a mere 6 or 7 pounds, not the 9 or 10 that it was thought to be. So the baby was born too early & can have complications solely based on a weight guess. Later many of these same women birth larger babies. And tiny women can birth 9, 10 even 11 pound babies. And no, they don’t all have traumatic births. When did our bodies change so much that we are no longer able to birth our children?

Prematurity brings with it a whole host of problems from immature lungs to problematic breastfeeding. When a baby is in the NICU can create a disconnect between the baby and it’s parents creating further issues once the baby is allowed to come home. It also causes emotional and financial hardship on the family.

So what can we do to help prevent the rate of premature births from continuing to rise?

  • Educate yourself – Know what a normal pregnancy, labor and birth look like.
  • Have faith in your body – Many women are told their bodies are not capable of birth. Big Red BS flag flying there.
  • Get a second opinion or change to a new, supportive provider even if you are in your 39th weeks of pregnancy. Yes you can.
  • Have a supportive birth team. Hire a knowledgeable doula.
  • Know your options. If a provider is suggesting you need to be induced or need a cesarean ask “Why?” And then ask, “How?”, know your options and don’t settle just for what your provider says, there may be more available that would be better for you. And then ask, “When does this decision need to be made?” Use BRAIN analysis – Benefits, Risks, Alternatives, Intuition (what does it tell you), (what if I) do Nothing
  • Same questions for testing. “Is is necessary?” “What will the results tell us?” “How will this affect my birth?” Again, use BRAIN.

Of course there is a time and a place for intervention and high risk care, but there is also a time and a place to just let a woman be to birth her baby.

Filed Under: birth, doula Tagged With: birth, doula, parenting, preemie, prematurity

Happy Halloween!

October 31, 2011 by Angela 1 Comment

Being on call during a holiday can bring much stress to birth workers.  Especially one so fun as Halloween. Worrying about missing the holiday entirely are dwarfed by thoughts of whether or not we’ve prepared enough so the holiday can go on without us.

But these things pale when we’ve attended a birth that is absolutely transformative.  That’s what happened last year. In the wee hours of Halloween I received the call that it was time for me to go. It was Sunday morning, my husband was in Afghanistan, my childcare provider was MIA & not answering her phone, my backup plan (and dear friend) was getting ready to attend mass that was particularly special for her & so I went to another dear friend, my backup to the backup plan.  Already I’m stressed getting out the door. I still had an hour drive ahead of me, and I did remember my Halloween socks!

My childcare provider finally called as I was pulling up to momma’s door. A wash of relief allowed me to enter this birth cocoon with a different energy, not a suppressed worry.

While I won’t blog about the birth itself, I will tell you that followed was a birth so beautiful, so strong, so AMAZING. Watching this momma birth with such empowerment was a true gift. She pushed aside everything that could have derailed her amazing body and birthed her child as she intended. It was an incredible honor to be a part of this family’s special day. Births like hers are what we as birth workers strive to help our families attain.

I was on such an oxytocin rush that driving home felt like flying. In fact, I made it home in time to make chili for the building like I did every year and get my kiddles dressed to Trick or Treat. I was still able to have Halloween with my own children. It doesn’t always happen this way, but this time it did.

And wouldn’t you know that Halloween was this birthing momma’s favorite holiday? She’s cool like that.

 

PS – Did you notice that the blog has a new look? Ginormous Thank You to Chicken Scratch Studio (check her link on the side)! She’s my peep that keeps me looking so good. And she’s cool like that too! 😉

 

Filed Under: doula Tagged With: birth, change, doula, holiday, parenting

Starting Out, Starting Over

September 18, 2011 by Angela 1 Comment

It’s not always easy when you’re just getting started regardless of your chosen vocation. It can be just as bumpy to start over whether it’s a new job, a relocation, a change in your family situation or the result of a break in time be it intended or not. I’ve done all of these in the short 4+ years since becoming a doula. I’ve moved across the Atlantic, twice, weathered the complete upheaval to the maternity care of the women I was attending, had an entire year without one single client following a very busy year, given birth to a 3rd child & was a single parent for almost 2 years while my husband was out of the country. In that time I’ve still managed to attend 19 births.

I’m always mindful of stepping on toes when I’m faced with these changing situations. I’m not as outgoing as I am, say, socially-tending to hang back a bit & assess what is going on. Find out where I fit best. Many new birth pros want to jump in with both feet & are discouraged when throngs of new parents aren’t knocking down their door. This excitement is inevitable, but so many with great potential crash & burn out this way.

Birthing a business is very much like birth itself. After a lot of research about the options in your community, there’s often a period of sitting back to wait & watch. When faced with starting out or a big change it’s a great time to work on the little things. Things like tweak your website, delve into a blog or a piece of social media you haven’t tried yet, network with other birth pros and other related fields, expand your services, take a class, go to a conference, read some new books, whatever. I’m not saying don’t get out there & look for clients, but what I am saying is be easy on yourself. Birth work is exhausting, physically & mentally. Don’t exhaust yourself looking to fill up every free spot on your calender. It’s not important to have a full schedule from the get-go. As you get to know your community, they will get to know you. One call will turn into 2 & a referral & pretty soon you’ll wonder why you ever worried about finding clients.

Filed Under: doula Tagged With: birth, business, change, doula, growth

Growth

September 4, 2011 by Angela 3 Comments

I remember being invited to be read a client’s birth story for the first time. I was anxious to pour over it & read how much she loved me being her doula and about all the things I was able to do for her.

And then there it was.

One measly little line-something about, “Our doula was there.” I was crestfallen.

No triumphant entry of the doula. No trumpet fanfare.  No confetti. No popping of champagne corks. No, “We couldn’t have done it without her.” Nada.

I thought, What the hell? What am I, chopped liver?

Well, no. I know just how much they appreciated me being there. To this day I know what part I played in their birth and every other birth I’ve attended.

But it’s not about me, the doula. In fact, probably one of the biggest compliments I can be given is to not be in that birth story AT ALL. This means that the parents felt like players in their own birth. Truly empowered. This is the way it should be.

When a doula can realize this, she has grown. For me it was a huge growth spurt.

Filed Under: doula Tagged With: birth, doula, growth

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